I was just giving thought to how quickly time seems to pass for me lately. I just can’t believe that my oldest will be 20 years old next month, and that my second oldest just turned 18 at the beginning of this year. I still have young ones, sure, but times goes so quickly…and no doubt before I know it, they will all be adults, too. Even when they turn just 8 or 9 years old, things start changing…
GOOD THINGS ABOUT KIDS GETTING OLDER
1) They are more independent with things such as homework and general personal hygiene. It’s so nice to send someone “off” to do their homework, to take a bath, etc…and not have to be there with them.
2) They can watch a few little ones for me if I have to run to the store real quick or when I go out dancing at a club. (okay, so the club thing I just threw in there to see if you were paying attention!)
3) They have interesting conversations with me. They become interested in the world around them and want to hear my thoughts and opinions on certain things. I enjoy talking, really talking, with my kids.
4) They go out of the house more, visiting friends and such. Makes for less chaos in the home when they are out.
5) They are old enough to do chores the right way!
6) If they are old enough to drive, it’s nice that they can pick up or take a younger sibling somewhere for me, or stop by the store for milk or break.
BAD THINGS ABOUT KIDS GETTING OLDER
1) They never just want to stay home anymore! I always have to worry about what they are doing, who they are with, where they are, if they are safe, etc. When they are home, I can see what the are doing, who they are with, and of course they are as safe as it gets when they are in our home.
2) I can’t help them with their homework anymore once they get into Geometry or higher math — tutors are needed if they need extra help, and that costs $$$$$
3) At around age 16 or 17 they want to get a job so they can earn their own money and have money to pay for car insurance so that they can drive…which is all good except, well..that’s more time out of the home! Not only that, but when we want to take off on a weekend vacation, they might have to work. It creates scheduling problems.
4) When they get into their teen years, they get busier. If they play a sport, there are weekend games. Again, if we want to go out of town for the weekend on a family trip, some of the older kids might not be able to come along due to prior commitments. They stay with friends. I hate going on trips with a couple of my kids missing, or even just one. It never feels quite right when all nine aren’t there.
5) It’s harder to buy them birthday and Christmas gifts once they pass the age of 14. Little kids are much easier to shop for!
6) When they are 16 or 17 years old…they drive! Not only that, but their friends drive! Parents are no longer driving them around. I worry. Always.
All in all, I love all the ages that my kids enter into. With each age comes new challenges, new experiences, new gray hairs (that would be on MY head, of course!) and I take the good changes with the bad changes. I just wish it didn’t all go by so quickly! Right now, in this moment in time, I have ALL nine of my children living under my roof. This is such a rare time…to have them all living at home…because for the rest of my life it won’t be this way. These days are special. I just want to remember and cherish these days forever. That is why I document everything that I can think of…and I take lots of pictures!!