Since Afton has her driver’s license now, she and Audriana have been driving to school this year. Although Audriana is the older sister, she cannot drive due to her brain injury. She is a senior this year, and all seniors who have a driver’s license get to park in the Senior Parking area of the school. It’s a senior’s privilege. I want Audriana to have this privilege, too.
But the “rules” state that unless the senior has a driver’s license, they cannot have a senior parking pass. I think that it shouldn’t matter WHO drives the senior to school, that the parking pass should be assigned to the senior whether she is the one driving the car or not. The school doesn’t agree with that. I think in Audriana’s case they should make an exception. Just because she has a handicap and cannot drive, she should not be denied a spot in the senior parking lot, when in fact she gets driven to school each day by a driver who parks and leaves the car at school. It shouldn’t matter if Afton drives the car or if Audriana drives the car – she should have a senior spot. She is a senior, after all.
So I asked Audriana if she wants me to fight it. I told her that I can and I will fight this rule. So far the only person I’ve spoken to is the woman behind the attendance counter, and she just states the “rules” but has no authority to change anything or make exceptions. If I want to go further with this, I need to speak with the Vice Principal, and if she says no, then the Principal…and if we are denied again, the next step would be the School District. I’m pretty sure all I’d have to do is drop the “discrimination” word and they’d let her have the pass.
However, Audriana does not want me to take this any further. She doesn’t want to use her disability as an excuse. She tells me that there are plenty of seniors who do not have a parking pass because they don’t drive a car, and she is just another one of them. She doesn’t want me to make a big deal about it. The last thing she wants is to draw attention to herself, to her disability. She’s afraid that if they make this exception, they will also designate a handicapped parking spot to her as well. She would rather skip school than have that happened.
So…as much as I want her to have the privilege of senior parking, I think I’m just going to respect what she wants and let it go. I have to remind myself that is about her; her life, her senior year…not my feelings. And if it doesn’t bother her that she doesn’t get to use the senior parking lot, then it shouldn’t be a big deal to me, either.
Rich disagrees. He wants her to have that space. He feels she deserves it just as much as any senior. He wants to fight this “rule”. He does not want to let it go. I agree with him, but yet I also don’t want to go against Audriana’s wishes. (I do know that if she were to get the senior parking pass, she would be very happy. She just doesn’t want it to become this HUGE deal where unnecessary attention is drawn to her.)
So what should I do?
Placing one foot in front of the other
I’ve climbed to higher lengths.
Reaching beyond my own limitations
to show my inner strength.
No obstacle too hard for this warrior to overcome.